Well, I had to finally break down and ban a few people from my facebook page. Four women to be exact. Now, I hate having to do that (no, I don’t. I rather enjoy it), but they left me with no choice. Ok, they were having a quick discussion between themselves about horrible and sad I was, how stuck I was on this Ravelry theme, even though that whole incident was soooo long ago (which is not at ALL what I have been blogging about lately). But, fine. I don’t care. I am as hated by as many people that love me. It comes with the territory.
But, the insulting thing….the really insulting thing, was that they were commenting on my own facebook page as though I weren’t even in the room. I wanted to tap on my laptop screen and go, “Dude….I’m standing right here listening to you.”
See? Only mean girls do that. They walk up next to you, stand right beside you in your space and say things to each other about you as though you weren’t there. That’s probably because cowards always travel in packs and don’t have the guts to say things to your face, but resort to audible gossip to make it seem like you don’t belong in the conversation people are having about you.
I could have replied, could have had a delightful time chewing them up, but that gives them validation. They want to be seen, be heard, be emotional motivated by you, even if it is in anger…..And you NEVER give your enemy what they want….even if its a fight.
No, my philosophy is very simple. Do not respond to people like them. Shut them down, shut them out. I’m happy in my merry little world and I have no interest in letting you into my living room and have you piss in the corner….then laugh about it close enough for me to hear.
(Off topic, but kinda not. A women mentioned my battered, weathered old face in one of my pics. I could only respond, “Sorry. All that time being homeless really did a number on my skin.”)
Which brings me to another principle philosophy change that I’ve learned about people like that. My mother was concerned about some of the nasty and negative comments about me she would see on my facebook page. I put my hand over my mouth, leaned in, and said quietly under my breath, “If they haven’t bought books and bears, then who gives a crap what they think? I’m spending my time with people who want to see me thrive and survive….not with people trying to break my spirit.”
“To the ladies I banned:
I am so sorry I had to take that step, but I’m sure you understand that I am having the time of my life right now, haven’t felt more free with my writing, I haven’t a penny to my name, but for as many of you that truly dislike what I have to say, or who I am, I have just as many more that truly love me and what I’m trying to do. I truly hope you find the peaceful benefits of knitting. I wish you well, I wish you peace.”
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